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BLACK IN AMERICA- ARE WE VICTIMS, WHO IS REALLY RESPONSIBLE? (4721 hits)

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Response to "CNN Presents: Black in America" a six-hour television event"

There’s a story about a young newlywed bride who is cooking a ham dinner. She prepares it by cutting both ends of the ham off before she puts it into the pot. The groom asks the wife why she cut both ends off. The daughter then asks her mother and she replies that was how her mother taught her. At that point the grandmother comes in and she is asked why both ends are cut off. The grandmother replied that she didn’t have a big enough pot.

Black America when do we take responsibility for our condition? How long will we keep cutting off both ends of the ham? You may ask- how do we keep cutting off both ends? Let me give just 13 examples of dysfunctional behavior that some of us perpetuate:

1) Refusing to finish at a minimum high school
2) Failure to turn the television off
3) Failure to choose healthy foods
4) Failure to exercise
5) Choosing consumerism over education
6) Failure to adopt a global perspective, understand our history and world history
7) Using racism and s*xism as an excuse for not achieving
8) Living in denial versus confronting our deficiencies and institutional societal wrongs including racism and s*xism inside and outside of the church
9) Choosing an underachieving noncommittal black man because he is black
10) Failure to get tested for HIV/AIDS, wear a c*ndom or have your partner wear one
11) Limiting your choice to only black men
12) Forgetting the ancient landmarks that allowed our ancestors to survive slavery
13) Refusal to accept the need for and release ourselves to a higher power in our lives

Black America no one is going to save us, but ourselves. Let’s stop cutting off both ends of the ham because it is comfortable and everyone else is supposedly doing the same. (By the way is ham still a staple in your diet?)

Leave me some comments as to how we can think outside the box rather than cutting off both ends through black homicide, HIV/AIDS (the number one killer of Black women aged 25-34), under and unemployment, disproportionally high school dropout rate, 50% black single parental rate etc.

Stay Blessed!
Joyce
P.S. I'm glad Barack Obama's parents didn’t cut off both ends of the ham!
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Wednesday, July 23rd 2008 at 11:46PM
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Simone,
Yes, to both of your questions. I think black women should date outside of their race and globally. If he is an individual that will love, support, encourage and embrace all of you go for it!
Joyce
Thursday, July 24th 2008 at 2:51PM
C. Joyce Farrar-Rosemon
No Nicole, here it is direct..and painful..from an anthropologist..you are a light skinned black woman.who looks white..keep it real..most unfortunate..but do the survey..if you can get them to admit they don't want to marry someone who looks physically like their mothers..assuming you told the truth..and is this a dating site? also it sounds like you met men in places maybe I wouldn't go..successful men like to hang out in certain places..and to have dated so many sounds well, a little strange..what does school have to do with it? all the sisters on this site are accomplished..so to whom are you speaking? Now if you said make money that's a different story..
Saturday, August 9th 2008 at 1:05AM
Marta Fernandez
Africans and African Americans for as long as I can remember have always been under the microscope of American scrutiny. Returning to our cultural Values, Ethics and Morals would be a start. Valuing Family and the precious gift of Life can and does help. Our greatest community asset, the community Church or Mosque, or Temple or Front Store Building has the capacity to build and train families on the American Structure of Capitalism. What is required to succeed in a capitalistc society? One must make CAPITAL(ie money). We must learn Civics 101 once again. It takes a majority vote and a majority of people to control when and where your tax dollars are spent and sent. As long as we continue to not do as the Romans do (African American) our unheard voices and finances go to those who participate in the American Government. Who Lobbys for the behalf of the African American Population? What majority of the population is actively active.
Why do we hire (elect)Representative, Senators, Councilmen/women and so forth? Who keeps a report card on their job performance. You hired (elected)them! What brought about changes? A peaceful movement? Teach our community to be assets to society. As long as America think we are liabilities to society they will continue to feed our mass media the woes in our community. Are there any woes in the other ethnic group? Do not White America have criminals or the Chinese, are Latinos with out criminals, how about Indians. The strategy to make our people look like the worst ever is not going to work. We as a people know we are great and excel in every thing we put our hands to. Each community can and should teach those in theircommunity who inspire to be assets to their community how. You ask how? Network with one another. Share resources. Provide classes to assist with entrepneurship. Encourage and provide the need of the community. ( Assess the job market) Do not continue to allow your tax dollars to leave your community and not fund your community needs. Do not sit there and think that the elected officials will be pursuaded to funnel money to your community just because you voted them in. It requires active citizen participation to make them accountable for their choice as to where the millions of dollars are spent. As far as I can see every community has a Community Center. Is that Center answering the needs of the community or is it just occupying space. Does the center offer the community the Cultural Rich History that has so badly been discarded of the African American? Charity begins in the home. Your home is in your community. Assess the needs. Fill those need. Educate and train within your community to accomodate the community. Listen we are under the microscope as if in a maze. America is and has been watching our every move. We too are a people of creative magnificance! The objective is to destroy your creativity. Not so on my watch!
What about yours? Think Big... Believe in yourself, Dream the impossible dream and watch GOD the highest power bring it to manifestation. Share How to overcome. Be Kind Be Love
Beloved
Tuesday, August 12th 2008 at 1:50AM
Beloved commissioners
Patricia,
Your comments were right on the money! Perhaps it will take a famine for us to wake up, but it is not too late to turn what the enemy meant for evil into something good. My dream is that others will say that from out of the ashes of slavery there arose a mighty people of African American descent that are now the Head and not the tail!
Stay Blessed!
Joyce
Tuesday, August 12th 2008 at 8:54PM
C. Joyce Farrar-Rosemon
WELL I REALLY FEEL THAT WE AS A BLACK PEOPLE HAVE TO LEARN THAT THINGS HAPPEN IN THE PAST,BUT WE ARE THE ONES THAT ARE KILLING EACH OTHER; THERE IS NO LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER. IF WE COULD HELP ANOTHER BLACK SISTER OR BROTHER WE AS A BLACK PEOPLE WONT WE WILL JUST TEAR THEM DOWN AND THERE DREAMS AS WELL WE NEED TO GET IT TOGETHER.
Thursday, August 21st 2008 at 9:46PM
Martha Davis
Martha,
Our hope as a race is in young sisters and brothers like you that understand the past and refuse to let the past predetermine the future. Martha continue to dream big- you can be that millionairess! Remember Madame C J Walker became one in the 1900s with far less resources than we have now. What's our excuse? Who is really holding us back?
Friday, August 22nd 2008 at 5:50PM
C. Joyce Farrar-Rosemon
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Thursday, October 9th 2008 at 9:52PM
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